Fathers
Men ready to examine what shaped them and become more present, honest, and connected.
A Forthcoming Book by Ray Upchurch
The 10 Commandments of Fatherhood
A Message of Redemption, Hope & Love
A memoir-driven guide to becoming the kind of father whose children feel safe, seen, heard, loved, and prepared.
Book Release · Fall 2026
About the Book
This is not a book about perfection. It is a book about becoming.
Drawing from Ray’s childhood, his experience raising two sons, the lessons of divorce and rebuilding, and the stories encountered through Daddy Hunger, the book offers ten principles for healing, responsibility, connection, and legacy.
Ray grew up without knowing his father. He built an award-winning documentary, raised two sons through divorce and financial collapse, and spent two decades listening to fathers and children tell him the same story of absence and longing.
The 10 Commandments of Fatherhood is what he learned: ten hard-won principles for becoming a father whose children never have to recover from him.
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“The greatest gift you will ever give your child is the father you are still becoming.”
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Who This Book Is For
A guide for fathers and the people helping families heal.
Adult Children
Readers seeking language for father wounds, absence, longing, and the work of healing.
Families
Families beginning difficult conversations about responsibility, repair, and legacy.
Leaders
Educators, counselors, faith leaders, and community organizations serving fathers and children.
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Book Cover
The new cover for The 10 Commandments of Fatherhood.
Deep burgundy, cream typography, and gold accents carry the Daddy Hunger visual identity into the book. The book is currently in final editing and will remain in Coming Soon status until the purchase link is live.
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